7 Ways to Make a Conversation With Anyone

Danish Fahim
4 min readJan 4, 2021

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Have you ever wanted to start a conversation with somebody but you did not know what to say to him? So you did not talk. Then you must read these seven ways or tips you can use to start a good conversation with anyone.

  1. Just Say the first words to start the conversation

Yes!!!! Just say the first words to start the conversation. You can say anything like Hy or Hello anything so that he should look at you and you will have his attention. Then you can say anything else and he will listen to you. You just have to start the conversation.

The most difficult thing is saying these first words. People worry about what will the other person say about them? Will the other person listen to him or not?

Absolutely!! he will listen to you. He is a person like you and he has an urge to meet with other persons. So the first step is to just say the first words like hi, hello, or anything to get his attention.

2. Skip the small talk

What?? Skip the small talk? How can we talk to him/her about anything else as he/her does not even know me?

You must be thinking that but listen to me and skip the small talk. Talk to the person about something personal as you do not have enough time to waste in hello, hi. You will have just a little time to get the person’s complete attention to yourself.

How can we ask him/her anything personal as he/her does not even know me? I am not saying to ask him/her about his credit card password. I am saying that ask the person where he live? Where is he going or from where he is coming? Something like that.

So skip the small talk and ask something that will take the talk a bit further.

3. Find the ME-TOOs.

Find the Me-Toos. Find the mutual thing between yourselves to talk. Talking for a bit with the person you will know about his liking or you will get a hint about it. You should the topics or subjects that you too have in common and BOOM!!! you can have as much talk as you want. People love to talk about the things they like.

For Example: If both of you like same football team or player, you can talk about it non-stop. You will talk about the team, its players, their opponents, and much more.

So Find something mutual and talk about it non-stop.

4. Pay a UNIQUE compliment

While you are talking to the person, pay a UNIQUE compliment to that person, I swear he will remember it forever. Say something unique, so the other person remembers you because of it. Some people are cold or immune to some compliments. Therefore they do not show any excitement or joy hearing them. Like if a person is very beautiful, everyone will say, “You are very beautiful.” or “You are very pretty.” That person will immune to these compliments as they hear it from everyone.

So you should say something UNIQUE so the person will remember you whenever he thinks about that compliment. That compliment may be funny as he will laugh at it and remember you whenever he remembers you and laughs about it.

So say a UNIQUE compliment that the other person should remember it for his life.

5. Ask for an opinion about something generic

While talking to the person, ask him to give his opinion about something generic, on which he can speak freely. Do not ask something too specific that he could not talk about it and hesitate to say something. Ask him about something more generic where he could give his opinion freely without any hesitation.

For Example: If you ask a person about Newton’s Law and do not know about it, he will not answer it and may feel embarrassed rather you ask him how the government is doing? he can answer it much more freely than defining Newton’s Law.

So ask him/her something general so you can debate on that topic.

6.Be PRESENT

When the other person is talking to you, pay attention to him and don’t do anything else while hearing the person. Be Present there. The other person should not think that you are not interested in him. Actually, hear to that person. Show them that you are present there and he is not talking to ghosts.

Some people start using their cell phones while the other person is talking to them and asked whether they are listening or not? But they say they are listening. So BE PRESENT there. The other person should feel your presence.

7. Remember small things about other people

Always try to remember small things about people, like their name, their hometown, their pet name and other things. When you meet them again, always try to call them by their name.

You must have felt embarrassed when you told someone your name and then you meet again and they say, what was your name again??? In the same way, other people feel lost that you do not remember their name.

People love to hear their names from the people they met once or twice. They feel a special connection. So always try to call people by their name.

Also, try to remember other small details that they told you in the last meeting. Like they may have told you about their family member who was ill last time. You can ask about well being of him. Or other details like that.

So I have told you 7 ways to make a conversation with anyone. I hope you liked it and by keeping these points in mind you can talk with anyone even your crush.

Thank You :)

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